Recently I have reevaluating my life. I think it is important for all of us to sometimes take a step back and truly look at our lives and world. Our friendships, our family relationships, who we are as people. What makes me tick? What is it that I love to do more than anything else?
Looking back at my four years of high school I realized the true meaning of love, anger, sadness, and pain. I have gained amazing friends, and I have lost many too. I have become a stronger person, and have had many more of my weaknesses pointed out. I have discovered my passions and loves, and realized what I really don’t enjoy doing.
I wanted to take a step back and reflect on a few lessons that I have learned through my time in high school, and my time alive, but one blog post on all of that would be way too long, so here is the first of a few posts about my advice.
- Remember that a friendship is a relationship and should be treated like one. Say I’m sorry and I love you often. But also realize that, like in relationships, sometimes people can be toxic. Now that doesn’t mean you have to break off your friendship write away (haha write, get it? cause I am writing this… nevermind). It just means that you should know when someone is hurting you and create distance.
- Boundaries are healthy, and it is important to know when to draw new ones (or break old ones).
- Some of the people you are in high school with, no, most of them, you may never see again in your lifetime. Others you may talk to every once in awhile. Yet others may stick with you for the rest of your life. All three of these types of people can teach you very important things in life, do not take anyone for granted.
- Even the people who hate you or don’t consider you their friends can be important people in your life, teaching you lessons about yourself and others that you wouldn’t learn without them, so don’t say or do anything that you, or your parents, will regret.
Recently I have met a few absolutely incredible people who I am hoping will turn out to be my best friends through college and beyond. They are loving, caring, and inspiring. They want to learn about me, to get to know me, to support me. They are people who I know I can trust and love just as much as they love me. They are teaching me what good, healthy friendships are like, and I cannot wait for my future with them.